I LOVE this so much! Girls be yourself and become a woman of God! This was written by Caleb Grimm from Anthem Lights (one of my favorite bands):
""It would be foolish of me to try to speak for the entire male gender,
so I'm not gonna try. I AM gonna go ahead and speak for myself and other
good, stand-up Christian fellas out there though... because I'm fairly
certain they'll agree with or at least relate to the following thoughts.
I am also going to assume most of you reading this are female,
because... let's be honest... if your here, you clicked on a blog about
'what guys are looking for.' There could just as well be a blog about
what girls are looking for, but I'm not the person to write that one
(maybe YOU are.) That said here are some things that go through our
oblivious, but occasionally-observant male minds.
What we're not looking for...
Essentially, everything that a guy finds unattractive in a girl is rooted to one thing.
Insecurity.
When a girl is self-involved, speaks highly of herself, and puts others
down to make herself feel better... its probably because she is
insecure.
When a girl is constantly putting herself down, making self-deprecating
comments, and lacking self-confidence... its probably because she is
insecure.
When a girl acts provocatively, says anything to get attention, and
dresses to turn heads... its probably because she is insecure.
When a girl is clingy, needy, desperate, and assumes the worst... its probably because she is insecure.
When a girl has poor self-image, doesn't think she's pretty, and the way
she presents herself doesn't reflect how God views her... Its probably
because she is insecure.
See a pattern? Of course, no one will ever be perfect, and we all have
struggles (us guys have our fair share of insecurity issues, trust me.)
Regardless of male or female, nearly every word and action can be traced
back to how we view ourselves.
What we're looking for...
A girl who knows who she is. The only way a girl can know who she is, is to understand how God sees her...
How does God see you?
He created you.
"For we are God's masterpiece." (Eph. 2:10)
He knows you.
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you." (Jer. 1:5)
He loves you.
"As the Father has loved Me, so I have loved you. Now remain in My love." (John 15:9)
He thinks your beautiful.
"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided
hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine cloths. Instead, it should
be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and
quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." (1 Peter 3:3-4)
No seriously, He thinks you beautiful.
"I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful. I know that full well." (Psalm 139:14)
He gave His life for you.
"While we we're still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)
He's there for you.
"The Lord is near to all who call on Him." (Psalm 145:18)
He has plans for you.
"For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for good and not evil, to give you hope and a future." (Jer. 29:11) *my FAVORITE verse!!*
This is how God sees you. He sees a heart that He created and longs to
have a divine relationship with you through Jesus. A person who has
embraced that relationship and can grasp how valuable the heavenly
Father says they are, is a person who can share a healthy,
earthly relationship... and thats what the good guys are looking for.
A girl who understands how she's viewed in the Lord's eyes, can be
irresistible to a guy whose eyes are on the Lord."" -Caleb Grimm, Anthem
Lights